Your way may not be the only way
I often need a moment to clear my thoughts after a coaching session - even more so when it's in the virtual world. So, as I sat down with my cup of tea to do just that last week, I caught the end of Animal Park.
The keepers were pitting the otters against the meerkats in a competition to see who could solve a puzzle more quickly.
The meerkats went first - they all came running over and worked together to solve the puzzle and get the reward of food. They achieved this in 56 seconds. The otters, on the other hand, investigated the puzzle together before solving it which they did in 22 seconds.
Surely the otters completed the puzzle in the best way? Standing back, thinking about it and then solving it? Well, they were certainly quicker but total time was about the same for both I'd say.
Where am I going with this? Often as leaders of people, we believe two things:
Firstly, we have to know the answer and secondly, we have to know the best way. In some cases this is true, but if others follow a different path but achieve the same outcome, why is our way best?
Let me put this into context. If I am learning to drive, there is only one way. The rules of the road and the workings of a car dictate this. So, yes, my driving instructor is absolutely right when they tell me to be in first gear when moving away...there is no other way.
But, if there is heavy traffic on the motorway I want to drive on, I have a choice. I can use the motorway and accept I will be moving along very slowly, or I can find an alternative route - which may be more miles but means I am on the move. Both choices will probably take about the same amount of time, and I will reach my destination. Neither choice is right or wrong.
And this is the same when we look after people. We don't need to know the answer to everything - humans aren't black and white so what works for us, may not work for someone else. There are many models out there we can have in our toolkit to help us, but we need to find the right one to use in that moment. If our preference is to stand back and look before acting, then so be it. But if we want to just dive in and work it out as we go, that is fine too.
Having manager or leader in our title does not make us super human with special powers. Knowing how to signpost or support others to the answer is more effective than trying to know the answer to everything and it will make us curious enough to keep learning.





