Why you should make time for your own development
22 August 2023
One of the most common challenges I hear from people is they don't have enough time for their own development.
They will only attend (reluctantly), what they are told they have to.
But, investing in your own development is not only beneficial for you, but also for the people around you. Most of us learnt to walk because we wanted to reach things we couldn't before or to feed our curiosity or because whoever was looking after us, refused to pick us up anymore! So give yourself a reason to learn something new and different.
And if you are always talking to your team about the importance of development, learning new skills, keeping fresh in their roles...then you need to role model the behaviour, otherwise you end up with an ever growing say/do gap and maybe resentment.
Here are some of the reasons why you should make time for your own development, and some tips on how to do it.
Why you should make time for your own development:
- You will become more competent. Learning new things, overcoming challenges, and achieving goals will boost your knowledge and skills, and you will feel more credible and capable of handling whatever is thrown at you.
- You will discover new opportunities and possibilities. By expanding your networks and learning with, and from, other people, you will expose yourself to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences. Some will work for you and some won't, but you are giving yourself choices
- You will be more open to change and innovation, and you will be more likely to spot and seize opportunities which align with your interests and values. It's an old quote but a goodie:
"If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got" Tony Robbins
- You will increase your value and impact. By developing your skills and knowledge, you will enhance yours, and your teams, performance and productivity. You will be able to contribute more and open up the possibilities of working with others who value continuous learning and improvement.
- Learning is one of the most rewarding and satisfying human activities. It stimulates your curiosity, creativity, wellbeing, and passion. It also helps you cope with stress, boredom, and frustration. By pursuing your own development, you will enrich your life with meaning and purpose.
How to make time for your own development:
- Set clear and realistic goals. Think of the last time you really wanted to learn something new...maybe it was learning to drive or maybe gaining a qualification. Then ask yourself why you wanted to learn and what did those learning experiences give me? Before you start learning anything, you need to know what you want to learn, why you want to learn it, and how you will measure your progress. Having clear and realistic goals will help you stay focused, motivated, and accountable.
- Schedule regular learning sessions. If we only had one driving lesson every few years, there would be no drivers on the road! Well, there would certainly be less! So, most of us would have made time every week for a lesson. We made it a priority and it became something we did every week, not something we had to find time for. Scheduling time in our diaries every week to learn something new works the same way - it becomes protected time and forms a habit over time.
- Choose the right learning methods and resources. There are many ways to learn new things; reading books or articles, watching videos or podcasts, taking online courses or workshops, joining communities or groups, or hiring coaches or mentors or just having a conversation with someone. Choose the methods and resources to suit you, your preferences, and budget
- Apply what you learn as soon as possible. Learning is not just about acquiring information, but also about using it in real situations. Applying what you learn will help you reinforce your memory, deepen your understanding, and improve your skills. It will also give you feedback on what works and what doesn't, so you can adjust your learning accordingly. Let's stay with learning to drive for a moment. Practicing in between lessons helps to commit the skills to memory and concentrate more on what is happening around you to become a better "driver" over someone who can operate a car
- Remember the power of "yet". The power of yet is a simple but powerful idea. Even if you don't know something or can't do something right now, you can learn it or improve it in the future. It's a way of thinking to encourage growth and resilience. Instead of saying "I can't do this", you say "I can't do this yet". This small, but powerful word shifts your mindset, and helps you overcome challenges and setbacks
- Celebrate your achievements and share your learnings. Learning is more fun and rewarding when you celebrate your achievements and share your learnings with others. Celebrating your achievements will boost your confidence and motivation. Sharing your learnings will help you consolidate your knowledge, gain new insights, and inspire others.
Making time for your own development is not a luxury, but a necessity. It is one of the best investments you can make for yourself and for the people around you. So don't wait any longer - seek opportunities rather than waiting to be told.
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In today's fast-paced business world, leaders are faced with a range of complex challenges. The Center for Creative Leadership (CCL) identified the top 20 most common leadership challenges, highlighting the areas where leaders often struggle. Let’s focus on the top five challenges and explore how Conscious Leadership - an approach rooted in awareness, empathy, and values - can provide effective solutions. Developing Managerial Effectiveness One of the most significant challenges for leaders is developing their own managerial effectiveness. Conscious Leadership emphasises self-awareness and continuous personal growth. By developing mindfulness and emotional intelligence, leaders can improve their decision-making abilities, better manage their time, and enhance their overall effectiveness. Conscious leaders are not only aware of their strengths and weaknesses but are also committed to ongoing learning and development, which is essential for managerial success. Inspiring Others Inspiration is at the heart of effective leadership. Conscious leaders inspire by being authentic, purpose-driven, and aligned with their values. They lead by example, demonstrating integrity in their actions and creating a work environment where employees feel motivated and engaged. When leaders connect deeply with their teams and communicate a clear, compelling vision, they can inspire others to achieve their best and contribute meaningfully to the organisation’s goals. Leading a Team Leading a team effectively requires more than just managing tasks, it involves building trust, promoting collaboration, and building a sense of belonging. Conscious leaders are skilled at creating environments where team members feel valued and supported. By encouraging open communication, listening actively, and showing empathy, they build strong, cohesive teams capable of working together towards common objectives. This approach not only enhances team performance but also improves overall job satisfaction and retention. Guiding Change Change is inevitable in any organisation, but guiding teams through change can be challenging. Conscious Leadership embraces change as an opportunity for growth and innovation. Leaders who practice conscious leadership are transparent and empathetic, helping their teams navigate uncertainty with confidence. They focus on creating a positive narrative around change, involving their teams in the process, and providing the support needed to adapt. This approach reduces resistance to change and develops a more resilient, adaptable workforce. Managing Stakeholders Effectively managing relationships with stakeholders, whether they are employees, customers, or shareholders, is crucial for success. Conscious leaders approach stakeholder management with integrity and a long-term perspective. They seek to understand the needs and concerns of all stakeholders and strive to create value that aligns with their values and mission. By building trust and having open dialogue, conscious leaders ensure stakeholder relationships are strong, positive, and mutually beneficial. Conclusion The challenges of developing managerial effectiveness, inspiring others, leading teams, guiding change, and managing stakeholders are among the most common and pressing issues that leaders face. Conscious Leadership offers a powerful framework for addressing these challenges by promoting self-awareness, empathy, and values-driven decision-making. Leaders who embrace this approach not only enhance their effectiveness but also create a positive, thriving culture that can navigate the complexities of today’s business environment.
